Why is unrequited love so hard? Is it because it’s the eternal struggle that woman has had since God presented the Apple to Eve? That we want something we can’t have, and then when we can’t have it at all, we want it even more. Unrequited love is so bittersweet because it is heartbreaking to never get the one we love, yet, on the other hand, maybe it’s for the better. Maybe unrequited love is better just the way it is… unrequited. Sure, maybe it’s not quite what we want right now, but maybe later it might be right.
But perhaps a lot of what unrequited love is the residual feelings you have for someone. At one point, there was something there. Perhaps you dated, perhaps it was just a hookup. But something was there before that has since fizzled, and now what’s left behind is some vestigial emotion that can be qualified as, or mistaken for, love. And just like an enflamed appendix, there comes a point when it’s time to get it removed.
When you know it’s time to remove that vestigial love, you come to a personal conclusion that the one you love, or think you love, is not the one for you. It might take a lot things, and hours spent overanalyzing, to figure out that he will never come around. He will never be the one for you. It might take some time away from him. It might take you finding someone else. It might even take a night out watching him hit on another girl and then bring her home, and him knowing you are right there to see it all happen. Whichever way you figure out it’s time to forget him and time to move on, and however long it takes, once you have figured out that unrequited love is exactly what it should be—unrequited—it becomes quite liberating.
So ladies, if there is a man out there that has achieved the titled of your unrequited love, remember that although it’s never quite what we want, it’s exactly what we need.
